Sex and Relationship Counseling

A Supportive Environment for Exploration

Many of us grew up in families where sexual matters were not discussed. Without this modeling, it may be challenging to know how to address sexual difficulties when they arise in adult life. Sexuality Counseling offers a supportive environment for thorough and constructive exploration. Questions and concerns may be talked about openly without fear of embarrassment or criticism.

As a Certified Sexuality Counselor and Board Certified Sexologist, Sandi Anders is knowledgeable about sexual issues, experienced in talking about them, and focused on helping her clients find solutions to the issues that are troubling them. Her approach is sex positive: without judgment, with respect for everyone involved.

Sexuality Counseling Can Help You Improve Your Sexual Relationship

Countless couples experience difficulties in talking openly and constructively about their sexual relationship. It is easy to become discouraged. Movies and TV show us happy couples who appear to be having terrific sexual relationships without any missteps, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, or awkward, tense silences. And they never have to talk about it!

Let's remember that movies, tv, romance novels, and porn are all fictional representations, not reliable guides to adult relationships. Real life requires discussion, negotiation, conflict resolution, clarifications, and patience – whether the issue is the family budget, where to go on vacation, how to raise the kids, or how to build a mutually satisfying sexual relationship.

Sandi helps couples have these clarifying and constructive discussions, stepping in with guidance and support as needed. Her office becomes a "no-fault zone" in which challenging issues can be resolved without blame. There's no good guy – bad guy determination to be made. Every relationship is co-created by the partners, much like a dance. Sandi helps couples learn new dance steps as they move towards becoming "unstuck", creating new, more satisfying patterns in their relationship.

Sandi is comfortable dealing with alternative relationships, whether kink (BDSM), open, poly, swinging, or other nonmonogamy. She is happy to consult with those who are working to resolve difficulties as they explore new relationship territory.

As an adjunct to the office consultation, Sandi frequently suggests homework exercises so that her clients can continue the process of addressing concerns between sessions. This makes the counseling process more efficient and cost-effective.

Sexual Problems Addressed by Sex Counseling

As an AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor, Sandi Anders can help individuals and couples with a board range of sexual concerns.

  • Sexual trauma or sexual abuse history
  • Difficult or unsatisfying intimate relationships
  • Gender identity
  • Sexual orientation issues
  • Infidelity
  • Feeling uninformed or misinformed about sex
  • Erectile or ejaculatory control difficulties
  • Low sexual desire
  • Mismatched sexual desire
  • Difficulty with orgasm
  • Body image and sexual self-confidence
  • Aging and disability issues
  • Enhancing pleasure and satisfaction
  • Communication skills on sexual pleasure, sexual needs and desires
  • Unconsummated marriages or relationships

Sexuality Counseling for Painful Intercourse and Pelvic Pain Conditions

Sandi has personally confronted the challenges of pelvic pain, and has explored a range of medical and alternative approaches to treatment. Her progress with a multi-faceted approach to pain management has informed her understanding of the complexity of pelvic pain, and enhanced her ability to help others facing the extreme physical and emotional challenges that accompany these pain syndromes. As a Certified Sexuality Counselor, Experienced Registered Yoga Teacher (E-RYT Certificate) and Mindfulness Practitioner, she is uniquely equipped to work with clients who have been diagnosed with the following pelvic and sexual pain conditions:

  • Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome
  • Interstitial Cystitis/Painful Bladder Syndrome
  • Pelvic Floor Dysfunction
  • Dyspareunia/painful intercourse
  • Vaginismus
  • Vulvar Vestibulitis/Provoked Vestibulodynia (PVD)
  • Vestibulitis
  • Vulvodynia
  • Hypertonic Pelvic Floor Dysfunction

Contact Sandi Anders, MDiv with any questions about Sex and Relationship Counseling or to make an appointment at 615.243.5693.